Emotional Affairs (Part 2)
What are the signs of an emotional affair?
1. If your partner has started lying to you about where he or she has been spending his or her time. If your boyfriend tells you that he went to his buddy’s house to watch the football game, and your mom saw him having dinner with another woman, this is a pretty sure sign of some type of affair.
2. If your partner has started covering up or hiding things from you. You get in your car to drive to work and you find a music CD that neither you or your partner owns. Your partner had your car last night, so you know that no one you know aside from him left it there. Problem is, you know someone was trying to hide it because it was found under the sun visor, and no one keeps CD’s under the sun visor.
3. Normally when your partner gets home from work, you get a phone call if you don’t live together, or if you do live together, you spend the rest of the night hearing about the co-workers, what was eaten for lunch that day, or any other exciting or non exciting daily events. If your partner stops telling you things about their day, chances are, they are telling someone else. Watch for signs of distancing. If your partner is normally very vocal with their feelings, such as telling you that they love you or miss you, and now days you just don’t hear it anymore, there is probably a reason. An emotional affair could be that reason.
4. Signs of a physical affair are usually also present in an emotional affair. Missed calls on your partners cell phone that you don’t know, or maybe you are with your partner and the cell phone starts ringing and after looking at it, they refuse to answer the call. Later that night, when you go to use the restroom, you come out to find your partner on their cell phone and immediately hang up the phone upon seeing you. Typically, if your partner is having an emotional affair, they will do anything and everything to protect it, and that means making sure that you don’t find out about it.
5. If your partners friends or family have suddenly become very quiet around you, this can also be a major sign. Even if your partner does not realize that they are doing anything wrong, their family or friends do. More than likely, their friends or family will be confused about what the situation is, and they will not know how to act when they are around you.
6. And last but not least, the biggest warning sign of an emotional affair is like mentioned in part 1, they tell you that the new person in their life is just a friend. A woman’s instinct is usually right, and if they were just friends, you would not be questioning it, because you would automatically know that there is nothing to worry about (for the most part). But if you have that gut instinct that your partner is emotionally attached to their new friend, then they probably are. And if you are being told that they are just friends, your partner is trying to justify the relationship.
Next: Emotional Affairs (Part 3)- What to do if you think your partner is having an emotional affair.
